This week’s question…

Dear Mrs. Merrick,

What should I look for when choosing a spouse?

 

Dear Reader,

My granddaughter, Cassie, can drive me batty. Don’t get me wrong – I absolutely love her. In fact, she’s my favourite. And don’t roll your eyes. I’m too old to pretend favourites don’t exist.

But her love life is in shambles.

She knows what to look for in a partner. We’ve discussed it many times. Two simple sentences sum it all up.

But sometimes her brain doesn’t connect to her heart.

And I get that. I really do. My dear James was the love of my life and a love that deep is bound to overflow from your heart and make it hard to use your mind.

But love without wisdom is doomed.

 

 

Take Cassie’s last relationship for instance. I knew he was a twit right from the beginning. At least she saw his true colours in time. I’d better not say too much else. She’d kill me if she knew I mentioned it at all.

I just wish she’d forgive and get over it. She’s not getting any younger, and I know she’s going to produce some great grandbabies if she ever gets around to it.

She just needs to follow the two rules for finding a spouse:

  1. He has to love God more than you.
  2. He has to love you more than himself.

Simple.

Okay, I realize it’s not so simple to find someone who fits that bill. But it will certainly help you weed out all the dipsticks while you wait for the one God intends for you.

And before you ladies think your off the hook, the rule applies in reverse too.

Make sure you’re right with God and He holds the number one spot in your heart. Especially when Mr. Tall, Dark & Handsome waltzes into your life.

And then you put Mr. Tall second. Before yourself.

There’s bound to be challenges in your marriage, but if both spouses are following these two rules, or at least making every effort to, you will make it.

Are you listening Cassie? Grams is here, ready to meet your Mr. Right. Don’t mess it up this time.

 

Mrs. Merrick